National Coming Out Day
October 11th - National Coming Out Day (NCOD). Most LGBTQ+ individuals remember quite clearly their first experience coming out to another person. They remember the feelings they experienced contemplating who to come out to. They remember wondering how to explain their identity so others can hopefully understand. They remember debating where to have this conversation. They remember all the fine little details. The fear of rejection and safety. The anticipation of acceptance. The adrenaline of the unknown. The realization of coming out is not a one-time deal but a lifelong process. To say it is complicated is an understatement.
Holding onto a deep-seated truth creates a lot of pressure for an individual. Think of a time when someone told you a secret but said “don’t tell anyone!” Did you feel like you were going to explode if you kept quiet? Some research indicates cognitive capacity declines when an individual has no one to talk to about their identity. We regularly see depression, anxiety, anger, and suicidal ideation. Ideally, coming out to at least one supportive person helps reduce many of those feelings and thoughts.
The first National Coming Out Day occurred in 1988. The entire premise behind National Coming Out Day was to not allow homophobia to exist in silence and ignorance. The founders, Robert Eichberg and Jean O’Leary, believed people were far less likely to hold homophobic views if they knew a loved one who was lesbian or gay. Anecdotally, this belief seems to hold true. Since 1988 the amount of people out and open about their LGBTQ+ identity has consistently increased, along with acceptance from the general population.
NCOD has since evolved from its inception in 1988. While it remains a day dedicated to raising awareness of challenges faced by LGBTQ+ folks, it is now also a day of celebration and empowerment for LGBTQ+ folks. It celebrates authenticity, challenges stereotypes, builds community, and embraces diversity. It acknowledges individuals who are still not out and validates their identity as well.
There are various ways to get involved on NCOD. The LGBT Center of Central PA is running an event on Saturday, October 12th called “OUT in the Burg Bike Ride” for community members to come together (check their website for details). Check your local colleges, local community centers, etc. for events. Other ways to get involved include sharing stories, offering support to those around you, or advocating for LGBTQ+ rights by sending letters/emails to your elected officials.